STOP BULLYING: An Information on Bullying

Bullying is a form of abuse it is when someone pick on you.It is done intentionally and repeatedly to torment an individual. The bullies choose their target who have few friends, passive, shy easily get intimidated or perceived to be less powerful or weaker than them. Bullying consists of  basic types of abuse such as verbal, emotional, psychological and physical.The victim of bullying is referred to as a target.

Bullying is rampant in our society today. It is no more an isolated phenomenon. It can occur in school, church, workplace, home and even in the neighborhood. In spite of every person precaution in interacting with other people, bullying still exist in social groups, social classes and between countries. Bullying that occurs in school and workplace is called peer abuse.

We’ll try to unfold Bullies nature. It shows that bullies have an authoritarian behavior and they want to control or dominate. They see that bullying can make them popular or tough in a group and then they can get the attention that they desire. Further studies show that envy and resentment may be the motives for bullying. Some bullies are arrogant and narcissistic, others can use bullying as a tool to conceal their  shame or anxiety or to boost self-esteem by demeaning others, the abuser him/herself feels empowered.They bully out other people because of jealousy, frustration or they had previous experience that they are bullied. They may also have undue influence, no role model at home or  conduct disorder which is the precursor to antisocial, psychopathic or other personality disorder. In addition they may also experience abuse at home and they are expressing their anger through bullying. Bullying behavior includes name calling, teasing, taunting, spreading rumors (verbal ) or written abuse, exclusion from activities,nit-picking, exclusion from social situation, physical abuse.

Bullying involves coercion such as psychological manipulation. There are different types of bullying i.e school bullying, workplace bullying, cyberbullying, political bullying, military bullying. School bullying takes place in all areas of the school. In school bullying occurs in all areas. The bullies wants their target to be out of their league. They try to stick together and outcast or isolate one person. There are so much work to be done in addressing school bullying because sometimes it appears that teachers and the school system itself are also involved.

Workplace bullying is known as mobbing or career assassination in political circles. According to the Workplace Bullying and Trauma Institute workplace bullying is “repeated, health-harming mistreatment, verbal abuse, or conduct which is threatening, humiliating, intimidating, or sabotage that interferes with work or some combination of the three.”  Workplace bullying include tactics such as verbal, nonverbal, psychological,physical abuse and humiliation. This can damage the morale of the target. Bullying in the workplace show that majority of cases reported where perpetrated by the management. It takes a variety of forms like unfair treatment, public humiliation, regular threats of dismissal, any form of undermining behaviour, credit for work attributed to others, denial of promotion or training opportunities, quick to criticism and slow praise, character assassination, malicious rumorssmear campaigns, social otracism, physical assault,

Cyberbullying can happen online they used internet or mobile phones like sending mean text, e-mail messages, posting nasty pictures to defame others with the intention of harming.

Political bullying is Jingoism occurs when one country imposes its will on another. This is normally done with military force or threats. With threats, it is common to ensure that aid and grants will not be given to the smaller country or that the smaller country will not be allowed to join a trading organization. Often political corruption, coup d’etat , and Kleptocracies are the solution and response to the countries being bullied (Wikipedia)

While Military bullying is a used of physical strength or abuse in their authority to give unlawful punishment. hazing and raging is a ritualistic way for an individual to be a part of a group. They conduct initiation with abuse, harassment and humiliation. This rite of passage often occurs in an academic sororities or fraternities. rescue services such as lifeguards, sports team, arm forces, police forces, workplaces. etc.

We have a settling question on how to solve bullying. Firstly, we need to accept that there is no quick fix in this situation. We need the help of the target or we need to further observe the behavior pattern of the target. If the target manifest reluctance, decline in performance or being isolated then it means that he/she is experiencing bullying. But, sometimes they can conceal better. So if this is the case then you need to open up and tell them that bullying is wrong, so if they are in this situation they will speak up. We need to help them but we can’t do it  if they won’t allow us.