Helicopter Parenting Make Your Child Neurotic
Helicopter parents are described as parents who are overly protective to their children, This term is originally coined in the book written by Foster W. Cline, MD. and Jim Fay in their 1990 book Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility. They defined it as ineffective parenting style. The term spread when American College Administrators uses it in year 2000’s as the millennial generation began reaching college age. This was also mentioned in chapter 18 of the bestselling book of 1969 written by Dr. Haim Ginott, He mentions a teen who complains about a mother who hover like helicopter. This phenomenon is called curling parenthood in Scandinavia, and they describe parents are sweeping all obstacles out of the path of their children.
Helicopter parenting style is said to be calling their children each morning to wake up for class, parents are intervening even in their child’s school grades, some parents are said to be choosing their child courses and/or colleges and hired consultants to help fine tune the application process, while some parents do it by themselves. Cellphone was blamed for the rise of Helicopter parenting they believe that it is considered as the ” world’s longest umbilical cord.”
There are risk involves in this kind of parenting style. This is believed to have an impact on children’s life. If parents restrict their children to go outdoors there is tendency that they will become obese, or have bad healths. They will also have poor assessment and they will have hard time dealing with the real world.
Recent study show that students with helicopter parents tend to be less open to new ideas and actions, as well as more vulnerable, anxious and self-consciousness, among other factors, compared with their counterparts with more distant parents. Researcher Neil Montgomery, a psychologist at Keene State College in N.H and his colleagues surveyed about 300 freshmen with questionnaire,the researchers specifically designed to assess helicopter parenting. They focused was on college students, because college is a “crisis point” in the relationship between the helicopter parent and the child, Montgomery said. At this stage, the parents no longer have control over their child’s life and can’t keep track of them like in the past.
they discovered that about 10 percent of the participants have helicopter parents. The rate is higher in girls than in boys. About 13 percent were female while 5 percent of the male are helicoptered. Mostly mother are doing the helicoptering. “We have a person who is dependent, who is vulnerable, who is self-conscious, who is anxious, who is impulsive, not open to new actions or ideas; is that going to make a successful college student?” Montgomery said. “No not exactly, it’s really a horrible story at the end of the day.” On the other hand, in non-helicoptered students who were given responsibility and not constantly monitored by their parents, so-called “free rangers” the effects were reversed, Montgomery said.
It is time for you to cheer up and remove that frown on your face It is just a preliminary research and they have to back it up with more research. A 300 student will not be enough to say that helicopter parenting style can make you neurotic. I believe that there is nothing wrong if parents check on you once in a while, of course they need to know if you are doing fine, and I do not see anything wrong either even if your parents move over your place for a week or two to see if you are adjusted in your school. Well but meddling in your school grades or activities would be far off. I think it is overboard. You might have missed a lot of things but you must consider taking into account that you are save you from misery that this world is offering you because of your parents care, therefore you shouldn’t hate them or see what they are doing for you is wrong. I supposed they are protective of you because they love you. Although it is true that you might be a bit uncomfortable at the moment but you do not have to secure your freedom, because they will give it to you in a right time.
Strictly speaking, I have a protective parents too, but in a reasonable way, they phone me every time, I don’t know why people misinterpret it. Parents are determined to help their children and it makes them sad when they bear witness that their children are having a hard time, but most people see it differently. Well it is of course link to the indelibly view of public minds. Anyhow this parenting style still remain visible and I do not see something wrong in it, although there are minor side effects to some student but I guess not all are affected. We need to reflect the real reason why it is constantly taking place. It is not in the parents conscious intention to harm their children and make them dependent. They love their children so they want the best for them. So, we need to stop our erroneous assertion that they are oppressively protecting their children.